Formative Days It’s been more than three years since my divorce, but I still find comfort in some traditions that my fabulous ex-wife introduced to me. In this case, I mean the Jewish tradition of the memorial candle, or yahrzeit candle, lit on the day of a loved one’s death to celebrate their life. I […]
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Cresting Gently
Posted: 27th May 2018 by admin in BlogTags: aging, grief work, healing, lifespan, Mother's Day, motherless daughters, mothers, personal growth
A yahrzeit candle burns on my counter today, a gesture borrowed from my fabulous former spouse’s traditions and one to which I have gotten quite attached. Today is the 45th anniversary of the mother’s crossing. As I’ve aged, the tumult of this day has diminished and now it more likely and more often leaves me […]
The Un-Spirit of Christmas
Posted: 17th December 2017 by admin in BlogTags: Christmas, family, family of choice, grief work, healing, holiday traditions, holidays
There is no time of the year that I am as aware of my shortage of family of origin as I am at the holidays. This is what some of us were raised with, right? Holidays are about family. Old songs extoll traveling long miles over snowy roads to be with family for that special […]